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Button or Not to Button: That is the Question? Dare to Be Different with Unique Buttonholes for Your Big Day!

Updated: Jun 25

A uniquet wire and ribbon buttonhole
Photographer Kaptured by Lindsey

In the world of weddings, where every detail is meticulously planned to reflect the couple’s unique love story, there lies a small yet powerful opportunity to make a statement: the buttonhole. Often overlooked in favour of grander elements, the buttonhole—or boutonniere—has the potential to be a striking symbol of your style, personality, and the journey you’ve embarked on together.

Gone are the days of standard floral arrangements adorning lapels. Today, we celebrate creativity and individuality, urging couples to embrace the extraordinary. Your buttonhole can be more than just a floral accent; it can be a conversation starter, a subtle testament to your shared memories and passions.

Why Choose Unique Buttonholes?

A Pocket Square buttonhole a mini garden on white and green flowers
Photographer Two Fourty Wedding

Personal Touch: Imagine your buttonhole as a canvas to showcase your story. Whether it’s incorporating elements that symbolise your journey—like miniature charms representing places you've traveled together —or choosing designs that resonate with your personalities, this tiny accessory can speak volumes about you and your partner. For example, a flower that holds sentimental value, such as a rose because your grandma grew them, thistles to represent your Scottish heritage, a decorative pin collected from your favourite gig, or an accessory from your favourite hobby.

Stand Out: Your wedding day is your moment to shine. A distinctive buttonhole not only complements your attire but also sets you apart, making a statement about your willingness to celebrate your love in your own, distinctive way.

Theme Integration: Are you dreaming of a vintage affair or a modern celebration? Your buttonhole can seamlessly tie into your chosen theme, adding a cohesive touch to your wedding ensemble and overall ambiance. For example, a rustic wedding could feature buttonholes with wildflowers, hessian and twine, while a modern wedding might showcase sleek, minimalist designs of a single stem, a round botanical button or a pocket square.

Who Should Have Buttonholes?

Pink rose and thistle buttonhole
Photographer Cara Green

Traditionally, buttonholes are worn by several key figures at the wedding:

  • Groom: As the centrepiece of the groom's attire, the buttonhole is a vital accessory that complements his suit or tuxedo, highlighting his role in the celebration. The groom is often the first person to greet your wedding guests, making a strong first impression with a unique buttonhole that reflects his personality and the couple’s story.

  • Groomsmen: Each member of the groom’s party can wear a buttonhole, typically coordinated to match the overall wedding theme or colour scheme. This not only enhances their attire but also signifies their important role in supporting the groom on his special day.

  • Parents and Grandparents: Honouring family members with buttonholes is a meaningful gesture that adds a personal touch to their attire, recognising their love and support throughout your lives.

  • Special Guests: Close friends or relatives who play significant roles in the wedding ceremony or reception can also wear buttonholes, marking their importance in your lives and the celebration.

  • Or Even Every Guest: Extending buttonholes to all your wedding guests can be a delightful and inclusive option specially for intimate weddings. Providing each guest with a buttonhole can create a sense of unity and shared celebration. This thoughtful gesture can also serve as a memorable moment for your guests, reminding them of your special day.

Why Some Are Choosing to Forego Buttonholes

Despite the traditional and stylistic appeal of buttonholes, some couples opt not to include them in their wedding attire for various reasons:

Minimalist Aesthetic: Modern couples often prefer a clean, minimalist look that excludes traditional accessories like buttonholes. The absence of buttonholes contributes to a sleek, uncluttered appearance that aligns with their contemporary style preferences.

Budget Considerations: Some couples prefer to redirect their floral funds to other arrangements over buttonholes. Skipping buttonholes is a practical way to reduce costs while preserving the desired wedding aesthetic.

Environmental Concerns: With growing awareness of sustainability, some couples opt to minimise floral use to reduce waste. Avoiding buttonholes aligns with their efforts to create an eco-friendly wedding by reducing the environmental impact associated with flower production and disposal.

Why We Think You Should Consider Buttonholes

Mint and sweet william tied sustainable buttonhole
Photographer Foster Photography

While some may choose to forego buttonholes for valid reasons, we believe these unique accessories offer significant benefits that enhance your wedding day:

Personalised Expression: Buttonholes provide an opportunity for personalisation, allowing couples to express their individual style and add a distinctive flair to their wedding attire. This customisation can be seen as an extension of their personalities and a way to make their wedding day uniquely theirs.

Enhanced Aesthetic Appeal: Despite minimalist trends, buttonholes can enhance the overall aesthetic of a wedding. They can complement the bridal bouquet and other floral arrangements, adding texture, colour, and visual interest to the wedding party's attire and photographs.

Environmental Considerations: Buttonholes, being small accessories, have a minimal environmental footprint, particularly when limited to the immediate wedding party and if made using sustainable techniques. By conscientiously selecting whom to include, couples can responsibly manage their floral choices. This thoughtful approach aligns with sustainability goals, reducing unnecessary floral production and waste, and contributing positively to an eco-conscious wedding celebration.

Embrace Your Unique Style

Feather and cartridge unique buttonhole for wedding

Your wedding is more than an event; it’s a reflection of your love story and individuality. Every detail, no matter how small, contributes to the tapestry of memories you’ll cherish forever. Dare to be different with your buttonholes—let them reflect the adventurous spirit and unparalleled bond that define your relationship.

Ready to embark on this journey of creativity and personalisation? Let’s transform your wedding day into an unforgettable celebration, starting with the very buttonhole that adorns your lapel!

Your buttonhole is your canvas, whether reflecting a whimsical travel destination or embodying elegant simplicity with a focus on sustainability. It's your opportunity to make a bold statement and let your wedding style express the uniqueness of your partnership while supporting eco-friendly choices. So, embrace the chance to stand out sustainably and let your wedding day speak volumes about the extraordinary couple you are.

Two grooms getting married at Rookery Hall with bespoke buttonholes
Photographer Jessica Isherwood

Are you ready to break the mould? Let’s make your wedding day remarkable, one buttonhole at a time!


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